When my son started preschool, I wasn’t a coffee drinker. But I’d always see groups of moms, carrying white and green Starbucks cups, chatting alongside their children. Months later, when I found myself still standing alone, I thought that maybe if I had a morning cappuccino, I’d have all these mom friends, too.
That's when I started drinking coffee.
But my mommy isolation didn’t end with a simple soy latte. Nope, there was always an awkwardness in the air when I would talk to other moms with their children. One that I couldn’t ignore, and one that no double shot of espresso could wash away. It was shame.
Raising a child with ADHD presents its challenges -- all of which are expressed behaviorally, like pushing, grabbing, and shouting. Sure, your child can partake in therapy for the defiant, impulsive, and hyperactive behavior. But there are just some aspects of ADHD that are hard to mitigate. And shame is one of them.